So, I have been struggling with some mommy guilt. My son is diagnosed with ADHD but has many Aspergers tendencies. With that we are considered on the spectrum. I find myself feeling guilty when I struggle with him because their are so many other moms out there who have a far more stressing battle with their ASD children. My son makes great grades while others have children who can't even speak. My son will hug me so tight I can't breathe while others have children who can't make eye contact. But something happened to me while out shopping with my Friend Susan. I realized that I shouldn't feel guilty for needing to take time for myself. A mother of a perfectly healthy child shouldn't feel guilty for needing to take time for themselves. We are nurturers by nature but neglect ourselves. THIS IS NOT OK!
Here is what typically happens with me.. I shove it down. All the frustrations, all the stress, all the worry. Then BAM I'm yelling at my husband or calling my sister crying uncontrollably. So after a nice discussion with the hubster (thats my cute little nickname for wes) we have devised a plan. Every evening I get to leave for a bit. I work from home so this is a big deal. I need to go somewhere where no one needs something from me, if only for an hour. Now for you single moms, here is what I suggest. Find a friend, possibly another single mom so you both can benefit, and trade some time each week. An hour or two to take a long shower or to get the grocery shopping done without a distraction. I'm so excited about my me time. Last night I used it to actually do a little shopping for myself. Tonight I plan on getting some ingredients to make Christmas goodies for my friends. If there was a font for jumping up and down excitement, I would be typing in it. I also know that this recharge time will fuel my creativity. Everyone wins. Please Please Please Please start taking care of yourselves. Your families will thank you for it.
